Tuesday, January 1, 2019

🎡 When I'm 64 🎡 & Other Notes


So where the heck have I been?
Along with you, a million reasons/excuses under that ⛱ known as everyday life. 
No matter the age, there are tugs at attention / time / activities 
that we lack the will to say "No" to.

This past year has been a struggle, to put it kindly,
but bearing silver linings as well.

Work: a πŸ’©-show.  New systems that didn't communicate. 
Management that didn't communicate well either. 
Long hours that filled my bank account but drained my endurance.

Marriage:  πŸ‘« 37 years and finally off to counseling. 
We pushed and pulled our way through and learned to
talk with each other instead of at each other.

Children: πŸ‘¨‍πŸ‘©‍πŸ‘§‍πŸ‘§  both our girls on their own for some years.
Eldest, now mother of three πŸ‘¨‍πŸ‘©‍πŸ‘§‍πŸ‘¦ + πŸ‘ΆπŸ» and a move to Arizona
for a great career opportunity.
Youngest, just south in the city and planning her March wedding. πŸ‘°πŸ»πŸ€΅πŸ».

Yoga 🧘🏻‍♀️, two dogs 🐢, reading πŸ“–, gardening πŸ‘©πŸ»‍🌾,
errand-running πŸš—, cooking πŸ₯§, journaling πŸ““,
you know … life.

So here we are at today - it is the first day of the 
Sparkly New Year
(I Love sparkly things πŸ’)
and 
It's my Birthday! πŸŽ‚
So I dedicate this way too long post πŸ“to looking towards 
the future, drawing on the past year(s) to shape and mold this 
2019 that lays before me.

I am borrowing from a list created several 
years ago by a favorite blogger, Sharon Santoni.  
I am just using her bullet points as inspiration, the dialog that follows is my own.
So here are my resolutions and like you all....this time they are going to stick.

1. Kindness. 
This past year has found us assaulted by someone who is cruel, belligerent, 
and definitely not a good example of how adults should behave.  
My endeavor is to counterbalance his behavior 
with my own dose of gentleness and kindness. 
Say "Good Morning" with optimism.
Pay a sincere compliment daily.
Wave to my neighbors.
Answer the phone when someone calls.  They are calling for a reason.
Reply to all texts with a happy tone.
Send Birthday cards, notes of thanks or thinking of you via snail-mail.
Fine tune my Hug-giving.
Listen.  Don't talk or interrupt.  Just listen.
Smile.
You never know what sharing in this free commodity 
of simple kindness can do for someone else.

2. Health
I have been slightly and more than slightly over-weight over the past years.  
I will finally stop looking at the scale and start looking at overall health.  
Get the annual check-up, follow the doctor's suggestions
and get the tests done as recommended.
Wear the orthotics in my shoes all.the.time.
Swim laps. Take walks. Eat more vegetables.
Use my standing desk at the office at least twice a day.
Get off my bottom and use this body as it is meant to be used.

3. Beauty
Notice something beautiful every day. Cuddle my Abundant Life. 
Continue to note it all in my daily Gratitude Journal.
Create a home of comfort and joy all year with soft surroundings and
delightful meals to share with my husband, family and friends.

4. Creativity
Sign up for those ceramics classes.
Create something new for our home, a pillow cover, paint those last doors,
touch-up and patch boo boos in finishes.
Knit or crochet --- a gift from my mother.
Cook a new recipe, even if it is fish.
Read blogs and IG posts that coax the creative juices to flow.

5. Fun
We have lived in northern San Diego county for 20 years 
and know so little about the city and surrounding areas.
So adventure, explore, kick some tires and just wander 
through new places that are just a short drive away.
Eat the pie.  Drink the wine. Feel the ocean breeze.
Create memories.

6. Time to Reflect
Do my morning ritual of rising early to journal, 
center with my Yoga practice of Sun Salutations,
share lessons learned on this blog and
savor a good moment when I see it.

7. A Good Read
Over this past summer I have rediscovered reading as a great escape.
I have stacks of books to read on shelves and bedside baskets.  
Take the time each day, even if just one chapter, to adventure along in the stories.  
I promise me, my life will be richer for it.

8. Digging in the Dirt
Although my garden is small, it is coming along nicely.
A new composter is cooking right now to help create "brown gold".
Tend to roses and veggies.  Water regularly.
Rake, weed and talk to those lovely plants that provide
beauty, sustenance and shelter for birds and bunnies.

9. Family Love
With the wedding in March, family will gather to celebrate my 
daughter's marriage to a great fellow. This is a great time to dance, 
laugh, embrace those I have loved for years and 
others that I am just discovering are lovable too.
Continue to embrace the remade man I married. 
He has come a long way over this past year transforming himself
away from seriously bad habits and behaviors
to a kind and thoughtful man.  
Then....follow his lead. 

10. Personal Self-Care
Continue to take good care of my skin with weekly home facials and a manicure.
Soak my feet in Epsom salt baths and slough away callouses and cares.
Before buying new, finally use up all those lotions/shampoos/
sample bottles/compacts/lipsticks cluttering drawers and shelves.
Toss out the ones that I just.will.not.use … ever.
Donate those items that I will "Wear again someday" 
but it has been two years since the last time worn.
Those items will provide warmth and enjoyment 
for someone who really will wear them someday.
Stop complaining.
Let go of the past.  I am no longer that person.
Breathe.
Then Breathe again.

That's the lot of it.  A good list to return to monthly or more often
should the waters get rough or too muddy to keep moving.

I wish for you to have the finest year of all. 
Create your own list using these topics or your own. 
Just don't start the New Year without goals to challenge and inspire.  
You don't have to revamp your life …
just enhance it.

Love and Kindness,

XX - holly


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